Tuesday, July 29, 2014

A RASH OF CHILDREN BEING ABANDONED IN HOT CARS_THE EXCEPTION OR THE NORM?

The news has been flooded with reports recently of children being left in cars. In two instances, the children involved were an infant and toddler who died.

The first report was here in Atlanta, Georgia and the father, Justin Ross Harris was arrested and charged with murder and child cruelty charges. The news has been rampant with reports of how the father researched a child being left in a hot car and what it would take for a child to die in a hot car, and so forth.

The second report was in Wichita, KS where a 10-month old little girl was left in a hot car by her foster father and died after two hours. In that case the father had returned home after picking the little girl up, gotten another child out of the car, and left the infant inside the car while they went into the house. Apparently he and his partner saw something on TV two hours later that triggered his memory of the baby still in the car. He was arrested as well.

Last night there was another arrest here in Atlanta, where a mother left her four children, ages 6, 4, 2, & 1 in a hot car while she went into the store. The doors were locked and the windows rolled up. The mother was arrested on four counts of child cruelty and given an $8,000 bond, which she has not been able to post at this time.

It saddens my heart to hear of such incidents happening to our babies all across the nation. I cannot begin to imagine, or even want to imagine the suffering they go through in those hours of being locked up in that heat. I think about how miserable I become when I simply get overheated at times because of not being in the air conditioner.

After seeing the report this led my husband to pose the question to me, how old would kids have to be for me to be comfortable leaving them in the car to run in a store. Then he brought back to my attention how as children we were quite often left in cars during the 70's and 80's, while our parents went into the stores. During those times it was the norm rather than the exception. Car manufacturers even made safety precautions (e.g., child safety locks, steering wheel locks, prevention from knocking the car out of gear, etc.) because of instances such as these. However, now it is the exception rather than the norm. The world has changed so much since then.

I have never left them in the car for any extended period of time. I have only left my children in the car if I was going into the gas station to pay for gas and that  has been seldom. But even that hasn't been until these later years now that they are teenagers.

I never felt comfortable leaving them alone, and even now as teenagers they still go into the store with me.

My discomfort does not stem simply from the heat, but also from the times that we live in. Born and raised here in Atlanta, I recall the Atlanta child murders, carjackings, kidnappings and so much more. Because of the fear that I have about such incidents, I keep my children with me at all times when we're out and about. Call me an overprotective mother, or just scary, but that's just me. I don't judge others for having a varied opinion about this, I just have to go with what is most comfortable to me.

How old do you believe is old enough to leave the children in the car alone?

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by: Chelle Ramsey

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Monday, July 28, 2014

STEPPING BEYOND THE MUNDANE_MOTIVATIONAL MONDAY MOMENT

To live a creative life, we must lose our fear of being wrong. ~Anonymous


This quote really resonates with me because I am often steeped in fear when I have an idea that I want to try out. Whether it's an idea for this blog, or a storyline for one of my books I become hesitant. I worry that I may offend someone, or that the multitude won't agree with my perspective. Hey, that's happened before and one of my followers actually stopped following me because we had a difference of opinion.

Thursday, July 24, 2014

#TBT_2004

It's another #throwbackthursday and today our short journey takes us just around the corner to 2004. It was the year that I would return back home to Atlanta, GA. I had been living in Cincinnati for the last 6 years.


SPORTS & NEWS:

World Series Champs: Boston Red Sox
Super Bowl XXXVIII Champs: New England Patriots
NBA Champions: Detroit Pistons


SCANDALS:
  1. A portion of Janet Jackson's right breast was exposed during the halftime show by Justin Timberlake while they performed his song, Rock Your Body.
  2. Old Dirty Bastard, ODB overdosed on painkillers and cocaine.
  3. Britney Spears married old high school friend Jason Alexander for almost an entire week.
  4. "I am a gay American" - James McGreevey, Democrat Governor of New Jersey, proclaimed that he was gay during a confession about an extramarital affair with aide Golan Cipel. The criminal aspect of hiring a non-qualified lover to be in charge of the NJ's homeland security was overshadowed by the sex scandal.
TOP 10 BOOKS:

1. My Life - Bill Clinton
2. The 9/11 Commission Report
3. The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands - Dr. Laura Schlessinger
4. The Rule Of Four - Ian Caldwell and Dustin Thomason
5. The Last Juror - John Grisham
6. Eats, Shoots, Leaves - Lynne Truss
7. The Daily Show With Jon Stewart Presents America (The Book) - Daily Show Writers & Jon Stewart
8. The Automatic Millionaire - David Bach
9. He's Just Not That Into You - Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo
10. The South Beach Diet Cookbook - Dr. Arthur Agatston


TOP 10 MOVIES:

1. Shrek 2
2. Spider-Man 2
3. Passion of the Christ
4. Meet the Fockers
5. The Incredibles
6. Harry Potter and the Prisoner of Azkaban
7. The Day After Tomorrow
8. The Bourne Supremacy
9. National Treasure
10. Polar Express

TOP BILLBOARD SONGS OF 2004:

December 13, 2003 - February 13, 2004: Hey Ya! - OutKast
February 14 - February 20: The Way You Move - OutKast featuring Sleepy Brown
February 21 - February 27: Slow Jamz - Twista featuring Kanye West and Jamie Foxx
February 28 - May 21: Yeah! - Usher featuring Lil' Jon and Ludacris
May 22 - July 16:
Burn - Usher
July 17 July 23:
I Believe - Fantasia Barrino
July 24 - August 6:
Confessions Part II - Usher
August 7 - August 20:
Slow Motion - Juvenile featuring Soulja Slim
August 21 - September 10:
Lean Back - The Terror Squad featuring Fat Joe and Remy Martin
September 11 - October 29:
Goodies - Ciara featuring Petey Pablo
October 30 - December 11:
My Boo - Usher and Alicia Keys
December 11 - December 31:
Drop It Like It's Hot - Snoop Dogg featuring Pharrell


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by: Chelle Ramsey

www.cmichelleramsey.com

Wednesday, July 23, 2014

WRITER WEDNESDAY_DESIRE MAY LEAD YOU STRAIGHT TO TROUBLE

Today's #writerwednesday brings a sample from one of my earlier books, Is The Grass Really Greener? I have found that in life we often lose a sense of appreciation for what we have been blessed with. We find ourselves comparing our lives to others and wanting to sample a different portion of life.

We question what if my funds looked like this? Or what if my body was shaped like that? Or what if I had done this instead of that? And worse yet, when a woman is in a lonely marriage she may even begin to seek attention elsewhere. Well that's exactly where Davina finds herself as she begins to experience a significant weight loss. And it can only lead to one place...trouble!

Is The Grass Really Greener is a women's fiction story focused on the tale of five best friends struggling with their current life situation. They each are looking for something better in life and as they envy one another, they began to take steps that they may soon regret. Their choices brings their morals into question, they step beyond the boundaries of sanity, and steeped in drama they even create scandals.

Monday, July 21, 2014

MOTIVATIONAL MONDAY_OPEN YOUR HEART TO LOVE

Keep love in your heart. A life without it is like a sunless garden when the flowers are dead. - Oscar Wilde.

Sometimes in life you experience hurt and pain at the hands of someone you love and trust. That feeling can leave you empty and bitter inside. It becomes difficult to trust again, let alone open your heart to love.

But we have to learn to forgive to move forward with our lives. Staying stuck in that same place and holding on to the grudge and pain of the past inhibits our growth. Progression towards a better future becomes stagnant, and life is meaningless.

It may be hard to trust again, but you have to learn to open your heart to the possibility of love. You have to learn to give someone new the chance to prove themselves, and not hold on to your past. Sometimes we take the past into new relationships with us, without giving the new person the chance to love us.

Release the hurt, the pain, and the past. Learn to forgive and forget. Although you may proceed with caution, open your heart to someone new and trust them to take care of you. We are all perfectly flawed and have our shortcomings because we're only human. So don't hold every little thing they do over their heads, but separate your past hurts from today's disappointments and judge fairly.

Above all learn to love yourself again, because only then can you learn to open your heart to love someone else, and allow them to love you.

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Writing My Dreams

by: Chelle Ramsey

www.cmichelleramsey.com