Monday, October 20, 2014

MOTIVATIONAL MONDAY MOMENT_LOVING YOU FOR YOU

"You must love yourself before you love another. By accepting yourself and fully being what you are, your simple presence can make others happy." Unknown


We are often our worst critics. Learning to know who you are deep within, why you behave the way that you do, and knowing what's most important to you is the greatest justice that you can do for yourself. None of us are perfect and we never will be. What we can do is learn to embrace ourselves, including our faults.

Shakespeare's quote from Hamlet, "To thine own self be true," is spot on. Because once you know yourself and can keep it real with you, then you can be real with others. It's impossible to be fake with those you come into contact with when you always keep it real within.

You can't help but be the best that you can be in almost every situation. Allowing yourself to open up and shine forth also frees others. When people see that you're always giving your best, accepting of yourself, and that you love yourself, they can't help but be inspired. Your presence makes a difference in their world.

Go forward in this week, embrace you, celebrate you, and love you.

Be blessed.

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Writing My Dreams

by: Chelle Ramsey

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Wednesday, October 15, 2014

WRITER WEDNESDAY_LOVING HER MAN


Welcome to #writerwednesday. Here on Writing My Dreams, you will have sneak peeks at upcoming projects that I am working on, or my published books available on Amazon. Today I'm sharing a snippet from the second book in The House of BeJeweled series, entitled BeJeweled: What A Tangled Web We Weave. This #wip has just been returned from the editor, I'm proud to say. I plan to begin the edits this weekend.

This excerpt comes from Chapter 7:
LOVING HER MAN

Nikki got off work a little earlier that evening and arrived home around seven. Carlos was sitting in the parking lot on the hood of a car with a few of his boys, when she walked up to their complex.

She smiled at him and said hello to his friends. Carlos turned up a bottle of Jameson, guzzling with one eye closed, and watching her with the other eye.

“Now that’s how I like my woman Carlos…big round brown, firm tight waist, and glorious thighs to take me to heaven!” his friend Jacob crowed.

Carlos pulled the bottle down from his lips and licked them, never taking his eyes off Nikki.

“Yeah man…that’s how my Tasha is,” another of Carlos’ cronies Bud teased. “Them thighs be good for gripping a man tight, and taking him for a nice warm ride on a cold winter’s night,” he cackled before puffing on his cigarette.

Nikki rolled her eyes at both of them. She couldn’t stand Carlos’ friends and he knew it.

“Alright y’all chill now. Hey Ms. Nikki, you have a good day at work?” Devon asked. He was the one person she could stand. But she wouldn’t consider him a friend of Carlos.’ Devon was a neighbor that sometimes stopped to talk with the other two dummies and her husband. He was married, but he was a real nice guy and Nikki often wished Carlos would hang around him more and the other two less. She had hopes that some of his good ways would rub off on Carlos.

“Yes, I did Devon. Thanks for asking. Honey, I’m going upstairs to cook dinner. I’ll see you in a while,” she said, turning to Carlos.

He still had not said two words to her, but he kissed her full on the lips, never breaking eye contact with her.

Nikki was fired up inside when she reached the apartment. Not only had her husband not asked about her day, but he had stood by allowing his ‘friends’ to disrespect him and her. She wasn’t some random common woman walking down the street they were commenting on, but his wife. What man would stand back and allow other men to make comments about their woman, in their face like that? Not to mention, another man had to step in, and curb their disrespect.

Am I really on display now? She thought. On days like this I wish

“What Nikki…what do you wish darling?” she asked out loud. Shaking her head, she walked to the bedroom and undressed to prepare for a relaxing shower. But she needed some encouragement first.
GET THE 1ST BOOK IN THE SERIES, BEJEWELED: THE FLIGHT OF AN ANGEL ON AMAZON.

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Tuesday, October 14, 2014

ACTIONS REALLY DO SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS_WOMAN UP THREE

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Our "Woman Up" series is back! In our previous two series we discussed how important it is for women to own up to our responsibilities of how we're portrayed in society and the impact it has on our daughters and younger generations.

Today, let's take another glimpse at ways we can woman up. My husband has a saying that "we're role models, whether we like it or not." I've never seen this more true than as I watch my daughter. I grew up in a time where we were taught to do as I say, not as I do. Well we can preach that all day long, but the message doesn't quite hit home. In more ways than one through the years I have realized some of the things I've done and the things I said, sounded just like my mother. They weren't always pleasant or good. Yet, these attitudes that I picked up came directly from her and I struggle with dropping them off at the wayside, because it's an inherent part of who I've become. And she often told me that she was the mother, and I was the child. Hmmm, that message was heard, but not received.

It's the same way today with my own daughter. I sometimes I cringe as I witness her carry out some of my attitudes or actions. Then as I correct her, I have to recall that she's only emulating what she's been taught by yours truly. At that point I have to take on the responsibility for what I've created. How? I have to reverse everything by changing my attitudes and actions. I have to discuss with her why I did or said certain things and admit that I was wrong for handling things in a certain manner. I explain to her why we should uphold a different attitude and the results for not doing so vs. the outcomes of changing our attitudes.

It wasn't always easy to admit that I was wrong. As a matter-of-fact, I started with the same attitude my mother held, I'm the adult and you're the child. That was the worst approach that I could take and when my husband told me so...I disagreed. Unfortunately for me, it developed a series of bad habits that are so hard to break within my daughter. As my husband also said, we have to be careful because children watch their parents and take on their attitudes, but then they put their own little switch on it. And you can't account for their perspective or outcome of their little twist.

As a woman I have come to learn there is nothing wrong with admitting I'm wrong. There's nothing wrong with humbling myself and having open conversations about my faults with my children. Had I done so earlier, my children wouldn't be carrying the burden of my backwards perspective on child rearing, or being a woman.

Being a woman doesn't mean, do as I say and not as I do. Being a woman doesn't come with making a strong stance that I'm right and you're wrong. And it definitely doesn't mean that my way is the only way. No, being a woman means that I am not afraid to humble myself and admit when I'm wrong. Being a woman means that I can learn from my children as they learn from me. And being a woman, means that I trust my husband's words, respect them, and adhere to his advice when he gives me words of wisdom.


Missed the first two posts? The links are below...

http://www.writingmydreams.com/2014/09/its-time-to-woman-uptalk-about-it.html

http://www.writingmydreams.com/2014/09/woman-up-iitalk-about-it-tuesday.html

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Writing My Dreams

by: Chelle Ramsey

www.cmichelleramsey.com 

Monday, October 13, 2014

MOTIVATIONAL MONDAY MOMENT_TURNING YOUR SORROWS INTO JOY

For his anger lasts only a moment, but his favor lasts a lifetime! Weeping may last through the night, but joy comes with the morning.  Psalm 30:5


When the trials of life come and ravage our spirits, we become depleted on all that's good. We continue to question why these things happen to us and want it to come to an end. It becomes easy to feel overwhelmed and fed up. Drained of spiritual strength, it's easy to become depressed and bitter. Sometimes we even begin to believe God has turned His back on us and no longer hears our prayers.

Looking back over the good times in life and all the mountain highs will bring encouragement. Recalling what the Lord has done in your life gives you hope for tomorrow. Sometimes we go through life challenges to strengthen our faith in Him and sometimes to have a testimony about how great our God is.

Whatever the reason for the trial, stand strong in faith, knowing that joy comes in the morning.

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Writing My Dreams

by: Chelle Ramsey

www.cmichelleramsey.com 

Monday, September 22, 2014

MOTIVATIONAL MONDAY MOMENT_A FIERY EXPERIENCE

Deuteronomy 31:6 "Be strong and courageous, do not be afraid or tremble at them, for the Lord your God is the one who goes with you. He will not fail you or forsake you.”

Life brings tests and challenges that sometimes we believe that we just cannot bear. Those times test us and cause us to question our beliefs and our strength. It's easy to give up or give in during those times. I'm speaking from experience.

The last few months have been extremely challenging and the last two weeks have been ferocious. My mother had an accident that required me to be by her side more than ever before. I took a couple of days off work to focus on her and run back and forth with her to the hospital last week. I also had to field calls from other family members, keeping everyone updated on her condition. In the meantime, my family still needed me at the end of the day when I returned home. I was drained mentally and physically. Despite the hectic schedule I was maintaining during the last week, I had other pressures I had to deal with at home. My family was going through our own private challenge that no one was privy to. At times I was frustrated and wanted to scream. But in those times I had to recall that it wasn't for me to rely on my strength. I had to rely on His strength. And He carried me through that week and He's still carrying me now. Not only me, but definitely my husband as well.

In times of turmoil and pressure, take a moment to focus on the fiery experiences you have gone through in life. Reflect on some of the toughest points in your life and then fast forward to the outcomes. Realizing that He brought you through, and you survived (because you're still here), will give you strength to go through the present ordeal. And even greater than that, you'll have another gift that comes only from Him...peace.

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Writing My Dreams


by: Chelle Ramsey


www.cmichelleramsey.com